Wedding Vows from a Single Lady

Patty Montesi
1 min readJul 22, 2020

Today in front of our closest, dearest friends and family, I vow to always place myself first.

I vow to always make sure I’m clearly communicating my feelings, my concerns, my joys and my sorrows.

I vow to give you enough respect and emotional space to do the same.

And when I find I cannot or should not place myself and my needs first, I vow to take ownership of that and not make myself the victim of my choices.

I vow to listen to you when you ask and push you to be better when you need it.

I vow to challenge your choices and hold you up to your own standards and morals.

I vow to come to an understanding on disagreements, even if we agree to disagree.

I vow to forgive you when you make poor choices, when you hurt me accidentally, and when you let your loved ones down.

I vow to support you when you let yourself down.

I vow to trust your judgement on matters in which I seek your advice.

I vow to endeavor to make as many days of our life together joyous, peaceful and fun.

I am not perfect and I will make mistakes. I vow to own those errors and intrinsic flaws and to make amends to the best of my ability.

I vow to be your best friend, your lover, and your partner.

I vow to love you and that is how I plan on doing it.

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Patty Montesi

Bi-sexual, bi-lingual, bizarre, & beautiful Latino-bred, Jersey-raised, NYC-educated, Seattle-based burlesque artist and spoken word poet. BLM. She/Her. Polyam.